Tom-ay-to? or Tom-ah-to?

Tom-ay-to? or Tom-ah-to? Everybody "knows" which one is right, but what does this really say about a person? Well, I'm certainly no psychologist so I haven't actually studied into "what the way you say tomato says about you." I do have my ideas though.
There are loads of words in the English language that we have the same problem with. Like, is "aunt" pronounced "aa-nt" or "ah-nt"? Well, an aa-nt is a creepy obnoxious little pest, who's sole purpose in life is to pinch you, influence what food you do or don't eat at your family reunion, and to terrorize little Children. An ah-nt, like your dad's sister, is very often creepy, and most likely an obnoxious big pest who delights in nothing more than pinching your cheecks, and always has to have the last word on what you eat at your famliy reunions. We've all heard it... "You're going to get fat if you eat those brownies!" or "Are you sure you don't want some of these sugar-free-fat-free-sodium-free-taste-like-cardboard-soda-crackers instead of that delicious-fattening-hot-and-crispy-melt-in-your-mouth-freshly-fried-chicken?" This type of aunt also terrorizes young children. I mean, come on! There's no reason in the world why a six-year old should have to put up with bruised cheeks and cardboard crackers! So, I've come to the conclusion that aa-nt and ah-nt can be used 100% interchangeably, for they very often serve the same purposes.
now, hand in hand with tom-ay-to and tom-ah-to, comes the po-tay-to and po-tah-to conflict. There is only one food associated with each of these words, and so unlike the "aunt" dilemma we can't esactly compare anything to make our decision easier except for perhaps the people saying it.
Presenting: the tom-ay-tos. I myself, and proud to be a "moderate tom-ay-to." I am not, however, and extremist. Our extremists are those people from Arkansas, who don't wear shoes anywhere but to church, and have no less than twelve cars on blocks in the back yard. On the complete opposite end of the spectrum, we have our "extreme tom-ah-tos." They eat their tom-ah-tos in their pristine white pinafores and spotless parlors whiel drinking their afternoon tea. Or, they are Chef Ramsey from Hell's Kitchen. To these extremists, only fellow "tom-ah-tos" speak proper English, and all us "tom-ay-tos" shouldn't even call our language English. Whatever. There are the moderate "tom-ah-tos", but mostly those are either limo drivers faking the accent for teh effect, or the Third grade girls playing with their dolls and their water "tea" parties.
I myself am a moderate tom-ay-to, that eats my po-tay-tos with butter and sour cream, that calls both the bug and my dad's sister aa-nt, and who still hasn't quite figured out..... is it
aa-pricot? or ay-pricot?